This is Our Finest Hour? I Have a Dream? No, nothing like that. This is a speech of 2 words I heard the other day.I was in a hospital getting a chest x-ray, a prerequisite for surgery on my broken ankle. Its been two weeks since it happened, two weeks full of pain, change, and coping. Ive described how it happened, learned how to get around the house on crutches, visited doctors and labs, waited on x-rays, and asked neighbors to get the mail and groceries. Ive also been put through the pre-op battery of tests blood tests, EKGs, chest x-rays, and discussions with my doctor, who felt the best approach was surgery.In my EQ Alive! program, which trains and certifies EQ coaches, Ive participated in the weekly EQ Check In along with the students. We tell each other how we feel physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. We begin each teleclass that way, and listen closely to the answers. EQ competencies include emotional expression, and also Integrated Self, being in touch with all aspects of yourself. Most of all it means not engaging in the meaningless, How are you? Fine.In a shutdown and coping mode, I thought I was being realistic about how I was feeling. I said I was in pain. I said I was physically slow and the painkillers had dulled me mentally, and that spiritually things were the same as ever. What more was there to say? I never gave it a thought. So there I was in the hospital. Id been sent to the wrong place and walked about a mile on the crutches to find that out. I was accepted, however, thanks to the work of a nurse named Lupe with very high EQ who just pushed the order on through. And then, mercifully finally in a wheelchair, Id been wheeled to the x-ray waiting area and left in the hall. As I sat there, a woman on a stretcher was wheeled up. I could tell she was sick. Her hair hadnt been washed in a while and she had a nose tube for oxygen, and a tube in her arm. Her color didnt look good and she barely moved. She reminded me of my dad the last time I saw him in the hospital. She was accompanied by two women. The first one went over to sign papers, and the other one walked off down the hall.A technologist walked out toward the woman on the stretcher when I heard the speech that touched me so. I think she thought he was coming to take her into the x-ray room.Im afraid! she cried out.God love her, I thought. So am I! I tried to get out of my chair and go to her, but the technologist beat me to her. Speaking to her in her native tongue, Spanish, he rushed to her side, took her hand and started soothing her. Abuelita, he called her, little grandmother, a term of endearment. A nurse brought out a screen to give her privacy and she quieted. She quieted and I thought: Why is it so hard to get to Im afraid? Of course Id been afraid the whole time, from the moment I heard the bones turn in my ankle. I started repeating, Please dont let it be broken, please dont let it be broken. There was no way to tell, and I was left with pain and fear. Was it broken? Is this because my bones are getting old and this is just the beginning? Will this mean arthritis pain for the rest of my life? Will the insurance cover it? What on earth is my deductible? How can I ever manage this at home alone? Will it need surgery? General anesthesia? Will I survive it? Will they have to rebreak it like one neighbor says, and put in 6 screws like the other one says? What will happen? I shut all these things down and used words like tired and in pain, but at the core, yes, I was afraid. Fear of the unknown, and fear of being helpless and dependent.I was also afraid of the fantasized reactions of others, having come from a family of shame and blame. I think nothing will ever happen to me that I wont feel like I caused it and was a bad girl because of that. Words from an overwhelmed, shame-and-blame mother who saw everything as simply more work for her. Whatever caused the ankle to break, I shouldve known better, I shouldnt have done it, I shouldnt have been there, and I should never have let it happen as if I were omniscient and omnipotent. That means all-knowing and in control of everything in the world. It was family that taught intellectual words, not feelings. Old childhood fears. In line with, Whatever it is you fear has already happened.And at that particular moment in the hospital corridor, well you never know what will turn up on any chest x-ray, no matter why its required. Nor had the results of the EKG come in yet. What if I went in with a broken ankle and came out with a bypass? Or worse yet, out the back door on a stretcher. Its been known to happen. As J. Powell says in Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? emotions are not moral (good or bad). Feeling frustrated, or being annoyed, or experiencing fears and anger do not make one a good or bad person [a weak or strong person.] But this is theory. In our day-to-day lives most of us blame ourselves for our feelings. And if we judge them to be bad, or unacceptable to us in some way, we bury them.So there I sat in my wheelchair, silent and alone. And there was Abuelita, expressing her fear and getting comforted. Its an old lesson: People care. If we say were afraid we can be comforted. If we dont, we cant. All studies show that people do best who have a strong social support network, and if you dont say WHO you are and HOW you are, you arent getting the connection that sustains you. You remain alone in the presence of others, which is the loneliest youll ever be.And let me close with the words of the technologist who finally did my x-ray. Dianna was her name. She read the name of my company, Emotionally Intelligent Solutions, on the chart. Whats that, she said, Is that like Im to the point where I cant stand any of my co-workers any more and I think theyre dumb and ignorant and feel like Im about to explode,Yes, EQ is about that, too!The woman works two 16-hour days, physical and demanding (how on earth do you do that?) and has three children at home. I gave her my card. I hope shell call me. It may not be her co-workers that are the problem.And thats the power of Emotional Intelligence. If you are the problem, you are also the solution, and Emotional Intelligence is the bridge between the two.

Submitted by: Jonathan Tan

A nose job can be one of the most life-changing cosmetic surgeries as it dramatically transforms the appearance of the nose drastically. It sits among the most popular cosmetic procedures in Australia with a variety of patients coming in for their enhancements. And it is also possible that some who are fond of singing come to get a tweak or two to improve their nose. But, it seems that this pose a problem to one’s singing voice as well based on experience and validated by studies.

A nose job, or rhinoplasty, is a procedure that improves the size and shape of the nose. In this procedure, the surgeon sculpts or reshapes the bones and/or cartilage that make up the nasal framework. The extent of surgery will depend on the goal of the patient.

The technique used for a reduction may vary from an augmentation or a reshaping. Also, existing nasal profile determines the type of approach that will be used to make the necessary changes. Adding to that, the degree of risks also follows. And one of these risks includes the changes to your voice.

The Voice

How our voices are produced is dependent on several parts that all act together to create your characteristic sound. The power source for your voice are the lungs, next is the vibrator, which is our voice box, and the resonator, which includes the throat, mouth, sinuses and the mouth. Any sound that is created by the vocal cord is changed by the shape of the passageway of the resonator system producing your own voice.

When all three of the main parts work harmoniously, you are able to produce a voice for speech or singing without giving it much effort, just as we would do with breathing. Speaking, for a normal person, should come out spontaneously.

Research

According to a recent study from Iran, those who underwent nasal surgery sounded more nasal for the first five months post-operatively.

The said study was done in Mashhad Universtiy of Medical Sciences in Iran. It was composed of 22 females and five males with ages ranging from 18-45 years old. Dr. Kamran Khazaeni, a surgeon who specializes on ear, nose and throat procedures and who was also part of the study, shared their results to Reuters. He said that the outcome from 27 surgeries showed that the voices change in significant way statistically, but the actual changes were subtle.

A team of linguists and speech pathologists also detected more pronounced nasal sound in the test. Based on their observation, the study participants had a hard time pronouncing the nasal consonants, since Iran does not have any nasal vowels in their language. There was an increase in the hyponasality after rhinoplasty. This is similar to a sound of the voice when there is not enough air passing through the nasal cavity. An example would be a person with a stuffy nose. The team used patient self-assessments and a compter program that analyzes acoustic sound, which confirmed these results.

According to the researchers, the changes in the surface area of the nasal cavity may increase airflow resistance, which results to an increase in sound absorption resulting in decreased passage of the sound amplitude.

Khazaeni wrote in the February 2014 issue of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery that if a nose job or rhinoplasty has the tendency to change vocal sounds by narrowing the nasal cavity of the person, those who rely on their voice for a living should be aware of this risk. Based on the data gathered, they were able to notice that rhinoplasty can change your voice.

However, there are some surgeons who say that this does not change any voice outcome. But for those who think that rhinoplasty can potentially alter the voice, they explain that it could be due to swelling, mucus or congestion, which are expected during the healing period.

Other Cases

To spot any voice changes after a rhinoplasty, looking at Hollywood stars who have had them done can be the best evidence. However, the problem here is that a large percentage of these celebrties would like to keep their surgical procedure on the down low.

But, one beauty that has ben thrusted into the spotlight because of a nasal surgery to correct a deviated septum is Ashlee Simpson. She may not be open up about it, but based on the clinical eye from surgeons who have seen her photos say that her nose has indeed improved. But when you listen to her songs, you wouldn’t even be able to notice if any enhancement has been done.

Some who do not go for the surgery cites Barbara Streisand’s decision not to undergo rhinoplasty for fear of changing her voice. According to Dr. Michelle R. Yagoda, a surgeon and an otolaryngologist in New York, a nose job can change your voice.

A Careful Reminder

The good thing about this concern is that it can be prevented. You can’t lose your unique voice just because you want your nose to look good. There is a way to stop any problems from occurring if you just choose a good surgeon. A procedure that is done properly, by nature, will result in an increased air flow through the nose. This will even be an advantage for most singers because it enables them to create a clearer sound, and there will be minimal use for the diaphragmatic support to come up with the same sound.

About the Author: Jonathan Tan writes for

Esteem Cosmetic Studio

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